Muslim Therapy
Muslim Therapy

by Irwin N. Graulich

It doesn't make any sense. Most Islamic terrorists come from middle to
upper class families. A billionaire, Osama bin Laden is their leader.
The children of well to do families flew hijacked airplanes into the
World Trade Center and join al Qaeda. Perhaps they all need a
"Wilderness Program." The Jews underwent their therapeutic healing
process for 40 years in the Wilderness after leaving Egypt, while
American Christians had their clinical treatment while founding and
settling the Wilderness of America.

Today, much of the Muslim world is in constant turmoil, turning out
sons and daughters with horrendous anti-Western values and ideas. The
hatred for America, the most moral nation in history is unprecedented
and the continuous blame of Jews and Israel for most Islamic
shortcomings is indeed irrational.

The morally confused left, Europe and Scandinavia continually use the
poverty excuse and Middle East policy as root causes. Similar excuses
were used to explain Nazism. Poverty--what a joke. Saudi Arabia, the
birthplace of modern evil is perhaps the richest nation per capita on
earth. The oil wealth in Kuwait, Iran and other Islamic Middle Eastern
countries refute this fraudulent Marxist economic theory.

No. It is their horrendous value system caused by a seriously flawed
psychological belief, uncovered by Freud and Jung. The Islamic world is
a society dominated by "shame." Pride is an overwhelming value, where
an obsession on dishonor means tremendous weakness. This is the
underlying reason why America and Israel are hated with such passion.
The incredible successes of our religious societies coupled with
overwhelming military power gives "Muslim penis envy" a new meaning.

Instead of saying we admire America and thank them for liberating us
from a Saddam; instead of praising America for developing their oil
wealth; instead of welcoming a new democracy, Israel, into the Middle
East whose technology and medical centers can truly improve their
lives; instead of trying to emulate these two countries...the Islamic
world has attempted to destroy them so that their own societies do not
appear quite as flawed by comparison. Muslims need to find behavior
moderation through learning coping strategies that deal directly with
the fact that we have created much better societies. 58 countries and
1.2 billion people must come to that realization and attempt to improve

It is a "Guilt vs. Shame Theory." In lieu of using guilt in a positive
way over their inadequacies, shame overwhelms them. Shame is a very
dangerous emotion where someone will do almost anything to hide what
they or a family member has done, or perhaps not been able to
accomplish. It can bring on the realization that the individual is a
horrible person.

"I, or my family member, did something atrocious and we are truly
despicable human beings. Therefore, I do not mind killing myself or
sending a family member to die in order to blow up innocents." No
wonder many fathers in the Arab world actually murder their own
daughters in "honor killings" because of a premarital sex act.

Guilt is a healthy Christian and Jewish emotion that says, "I made a
mistake and I am upset over it." However with guilt one simply feel
that hard work will correct the problem. Shame means the individual can
never get better, because that is how you and your society were made
and it can never be corrected. Modern American therapists attempt to
transform shame into guilt. Guilt means there is an ability to change
by developing a positive attitude. Shame always makes the individual
feel terribly inadequate.

No wonder that terrorist leaders are so angry and irrational. They get
their negative coping skills from shame, because trying to hide from
shameful feelings and thoughts leads to even more shame and irrational
radicalism. Terrorism is the reaction to these emotions caused by bad
values and horrendous religious interpretations. It has nothing to do
with poverty. The terrorists are simply ashamed that we are better at
virtually everything we do, so they turn to terrorism. They become
proud of terrorism and then ashamed of their actions, so they initiate
more terrorism which continues the vicious cycle.

Unless these fundamentalist societies change to mirror Western
democracies with a focus on this life and not 72 virgins in heaven,
Islamic terrorism will continue. Unless they are shown the rewards of a
life where ethical monotheism is the prime motivator and not a
religious system that seeks to dominates the world, Islamic terrorism
will continue. Unless they establish healthy patterns of communications
and do away with a manipulative, lying press, Islamic terrorism will
continue. Unless they focus self-control on character building and
learning lessons from life's journey, Islamic terrorism will continue.

bin Laden and his associates have become "teenagers in crisis" with
classic cases of anger, resentment and oppositional, defiant behavior.
They do not know boundaries nor take accountability for their evil
deeds. They have made and continue to make all the wrong choices. They
have never grown up or matured emotionally. Where have we parents heard
all this before?

Irwin N. Graulich is a well known motivational speaker on morality, ethics, religion and politics. He is also President and CEO of a leading marketing, branding and communications company in New York City. He can be reached at

Reprinted by permission.